Do you think she looks too exotic for a Caucasian male?
I am caucasian but like her and want to develop a friendship with her but my friends think she looks too 'exotic'...(different)..I am thinking of writing to her.
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Is she too exotic for a Caucasian male? i'm a caucasian male, and i've dated women similarly "exotic".
so, friends, relationship, whatever... don't worry about what anyone else thinks, or guess about whether it will or won't work. whether it's friends, or more, it's about the "click" - and that can happen between two people who initially may seem to be very different. once two people get to know each other, it either happens, or it doesn't... there are one-sided clicks all the time, but those don't count - one side can't force it.
good news so far, right? but on the other hand, you won't get anywhere if exotic is what you focus on.
it's nice to know what you like and don't like in relationships, and what you find attractive and not attractive in a partner (you can figure this out in advance, and maybe 'exotic' is a small part of that), so you can know whether to move the relationship you're in right now to a higher level, or move on.
but to have a really close relationship, you have to appreciate the little tiny details of who another person is in the specific context of both of your lives and specific moments. but there's a BIG catch. this is NOT something which can happen in advance. in other words, don't decide if you like her before you decide if you like her.
the more you "want" a certain result from the situation, and the more you "plan" and think about her in advance, the more you objectify her and put her on a pedestal, the creepier you will become to her. you are not the first guy to notice her exotic beauty. and the guys before you had honorable intentions, like you.
let's face it, you think she's hot... and want it to go farther than friends. and although you think your intentions are totally honorable, if more than 10% of your thoughts are related to exotic, this will probably play out in a way that eventually she will either think you naive, annoying, or creepy. she's sick of the "exotic" box she gets put in, even though she may use it to her advantage from time to time.
don't decide the outcome of a specific situation before you start interacting. if it's meant to be, it's meant to be, if not, not. your goals are larger than this moment and the outcome of this situation, so it doesn't matter whether you win or lose this battle. you will still win the war.
women (and men) want real interaction. genuine interaction. interaction unique to them. it doesn't matter whether you start with "hi"... or "nice shoes"... or "i couldn't help overhear your question, i'm actually looking for the same thing"...
find common ground or something funny to share. try to forget that she's exotic. what's that mean, anyway, and who decides it? you'll do a lot better with flirting, teasing, eye contact, or conversation about a topic that you both are passionate about - you don't even have to agree about everything, just be yourself.
so forget about exotic... start with "hi", then you might get a chance to find out who she really is, and she the same.
Is she too exotic for a Caucasian male? it appears she deleted her mySpace, probably related to this question. : (
so you've dug yourself a little bit of a hole. she already thinks you're a stalker, because in a way, you have been. : |
good luck, and don't be a stalker, even if (you think) your intentions are good. Report It
Is she too exotic for a Caucasian male? exotic? thats a word you use to describe a stripper or hooker.
Is she too exotic for a Caucasian male? One thing you will eventually have to learn is that who you date doesn't need to please anyone but you. You can never make everyone happy.
When choosing some one to date, you only need to focus on your likes and dislikes. Don't worry about "different" or exotic she might seem to others. You are the one that will be spending time with her and dating her. You are trying to find some one that suits you - not all your family and friends.
It doesn't matter what race you are and it shouldn't matter what race your girlfriend is.
If you live in the type of environment where this is not liked or tolerated you will just have to be brave and explain to people that it's your choice; not theirs. And they will have to learn to live with it.
If you do make the decision to date her, just let her know that your opinion is all that counts and make sure you can be strong enough to withstand opposition. If you have any doubts about whether you can do it, don't get involved.
Is she too exotic for a Caucasian male? She is beautiful. Never heard of someone being 'too exotic' for a Caucasian male. You like her you go for it. She is so much more then just her look. You don't even know if you have anything in common with her. So....stop sweating it before even saying your first hello to her and go for it!...Don't let your friends decides who you should be dating.
